Our Story
It all started with a blind date in 2007.
My mom was getting her hair done and decided randomly to ask the stylist if she knew any nice good single guys for her daughter. She said no.
Us somewhere around July 4th 2007/2008 - We both had so much more hair than we do today!
But in came her husband…who just happened to be there..listening in the back room that day…he said, “I know someone”.
And a facebook message turned into the longest-coffee-date-ever began a dating relationship that just never ended…
Except it did end….three times! (More on that later)
Exploring Love
You see…commitment is scary! But it’s not really because we’re afraid of being “tied down” or “stuck” with someone forever. Although that’s what we sometimes say…and it can feel that way for some people for various reasons.
But it’s scary because we don’t know what it’s really about. We don’t understand what love really is. For many of us a good healthy relationship has never been modeled. So how can we know what it’s supposed to look like?
Why Don’t We All Find Love?
Although we desire to be known, seen, and loved. We don’t like feeling vulnerable. We want the feelings of love and connection but we fear it.
Maybe because it takes effort? Maybe because it could hurt?
We explore all of this in our blog. Why do we run from intimacy? It’s the one thing we truly crave…but we avoid it like the plague!
We (humans) avoid it. We medicate it. We shove it to the side. We pretend we don’t need it. Then we wonder why we’re addicted, over weight, depressed, and lonely.
Exploring Problems And Solutions
Our society replaces intimacy with sex. But intimacy is so much more than an act of intercourse!!
We don’t pretend to have it all together. That’s not our goal. Our goal is to explore these ideas with you. Together we can work all of this out. As a result we can become better more loving and happy humans.
Our Journey To Love
Our story almost ended in 2007…but instead we made it! (Read the story here)
We dated for a year, were engaged for 6 months, and we married in 2008. (Read the story here)
Every day we learn more about love. (Read the story here)
2008, Brad became a licensed Marriage and Family therapist and we started Family and Life Solutions which later became Marriage Solutions. (Read about the journey here)
Both Brad and I have struggled with identity and purpose. We also share our individual journey of discovery in our blog HERE.
We travelled all over the U.S. training with the best therapists from around the world.
Us working together…look how young and refreshed we looked pre-kids!
2010, we joined forces and made Marriage Solutions possible. Working together has its own challenges. We share our stories and lessons learned about working together HERE.
2014, We both came into the Roman Catholic Church together.
2015, I was diagnosed with a large uterine tumor. After visiting 6 doctors, and almost losing our chances of having children, we finally met a doctor who was able to save my uterus. (Read the story here)
2016, after 5 years of marriage, and 1 painful surgery and recovery, we gave birth to our first son Luke. (Read about becoming parents here)
Also, our son was born with clubbed feet and underwent several surgeries between 2016 and 2018.
2018, our podcast reached 1.5 million people worldwide!
2019, we gave birth to our first daughter Brenna Maria. (Read the story here)
2020, has brought so many new lessons! So far we’re all dealing with a devastating COVID-19 pandemic and we’re pregnant with our 3rd little baby due in October.
2025, after losing two babies, we finally welcomed our baby Ethan into the world. We struggled with a high risk pregnancy due to a rare blood disorder. But he was delivered healthy 1 month early.
Come along with us as we “do life” and learn about love!