marital inidelity

Finding Motivation to Continue When You Feel None

In behavioral economics, there’s a phenomenon called the “expectancy effect.”

You expect something to work, and—surprise—it’s more likely to.

Not because the thing itself changed, but because you did. Your behavior adapts.

You show up differently. You make different choices, even in the smallest moments.

And those small moments—those are the ones that quietly bend the arc of a life.

Now apply that to a marriage sitting in the wreckage of an affair.

You’ve got two people—shell-shocked, arms crossed, emotionally bleeding out.

Trust is in the negative.

Intimacy feels like a distant planet.

Every look is loaded, every silence says more than words ever could.

But then something small happens.

You Said The Affair Was Over. Here’s Why It Still Isn’t

I’ve worked with couples on the brink of collapse—some literally sitting in separate chairs in my office, not making eye contact, hands clenched, one foot already halfway out the door.

And I’ve seen what happens when someone says, “I’ve ended the affair,” but hasn’t really ended it.

The truth?

Most people don’t need help deciding whether they should end an affair.

They need help staying done.

That’s the part no one talks about.

Surviving the Holidays After an Affair: Infidelity Recovery Tips

This guide will walk you through the hidden pain of navigating the holidays after an affair—why this season hits harder than most, and what you can do to make it through with grace, boundaries, and hope.

Whether you're the one who was betrayed or the one who broke the trust, we'll cover why the holidays are uniquely triggering, how to manage family dynamics (especially when others feel betrayed too), and how to move through events as a couple—even if things still feel broken.

Expect real stories, practical tools, and ways to reconnect to your own strength, even in the mess.

21 Practical Tools to Manage Anger After Marital Infidelity

Anger is a natural response to infidelity. But when left unmanaged, it can consume your life, sabotage healing, and leave you feeling more alone than ever.

These 21 tools are designed to help you feel your anger without being ruled by it.

Why Did My Spouse Cheat?

Why did they do it?” is a question I’m asked all the time.

Clients and those in our affair recovery programs ask because they need the world to make sense again.

They’re trying to rebuild some version of reality that you can live with. And at the center of it is that question—not just about what happened, but about who they are, who their spouse is, and whether the life they built with their spouse ever really existed in the first place.