Avoidant Attachment: Why It Hurts, Its Causes, & How to Heal
What You’ll Find in This Article
The Basics: What avoidant attachment style is and why closeness feels threatening.
Childhood Roots: How early caregiver interactions shape the four attachment styles.
Adult Impact: How avoidant traits like emotional distance affect relationships.
Key Signs: Spotting avoidant attachment in adults and its need for peace over connection.
Conflict & Perception: How avoidants handle disputes and how partners see them.
Love and Struggles: Their action-based love, caregiving challenges, and self-sabotage.
Infidelity Link: Why avoidant attachment drives cheating, with examples and research.
Healing Path: Practical steps, solutions, and resources to break the cycle.
Have you ever felt like someone you love keeps you at arm’s length—no matter how hard you try to get close?
Or maybe you’ve noticed yourself pulling away when relationships start feeling "too real"?
If so, you might be encountering the effects of an avoidant attachment style. Rooted in childhood experiences and carried into adulthood, this way of connecting—or disconnecting—shapes how we approach intimacy, trust, and love.
Why Did My Spouse Cheat?
Why did they do it?” is a question I’m asked all the time.
Clients and those in our affair recovery programs ask because they need the world to make sense again.
They’re trying to rebuild some version of reality that you can live with. And at the center of it is that question—not just about what happened, but about who they are, who their spouse is, and whether the life they built with their spouse ever really existed in the first place.