It's been extremely helpful. Me, as the betrayer in the relationship, being able to work through the why on the other side of it has been extremely beneficial to better understand how past trauma has brought me to this point and has caused me to take actions to get us to this point, along with how to communicate better and to have a better emotional awareness and tools in order to get there. Because I think with better emotional awareness, both personally and in our relationship, we can talk through these things without getting to the point that we had in the past. So it's been life-changing, and especially for our relationship extremely beneficial…
How Trauma Works
Our son Luke was born with a condition that required two surgeries on his feet, leg casts, and special immobilizing shoes all before he was four years old.
When we went for his second surgery we didn’t realize that we would have to choose whether they would give him calming medication or for us to stay with him as they put him to sleep.
So we chose the calming medicine thinking that would be better for him.
As they wheeled him back into the surgical suite Brad and I tried so hard to keep it together. It was the hardest thing to see our little 2 year old leaving us for such a big thing.
There’s always this little place in your mind that wonders if he’ll wake up from anesthesia….