There are mainly two groups within the unfaithful partners that we will consider in this article. The motivated unfaithful partner and the unmotivated unfaithful partner.

The unmotivated partner may not always know what to do. They may feel helpless that things can’t really change.

The motivated partner may be afraid of losing their spouse. They too aren’t always sure of what to do.

In either case the list below will shed some light on what goes on in the mind of the one who had an affair. This would also apply to anyone who has had multiple affairs as well.