We all know marriage is rough sometimes. Lots of highs and lots of lows.
Sometimes we may wonder if we made too many mistakes or maybe we shouldn’t be together.
We often hear people say “my partner needs to work on themselves before we work on our relationship”. They need to fix themselves before we can fix us.
That’s only a partial truth. The full truth is “we grow as we go” as the song says. The best way to heal most good relationships is to stay together and work it out together.
As the song says,
“we’re gonna see that is was better, that we grew up together.”
Such a beautiful illustration of how marriage is supposed to be.
It’s not two perfect people having “it all” together BEFORE marriage that makes marriage work.
No. It’s two imperfect people committed to each other for better or for worse.
But the song also implies that both people be willing to grow.
It recognizes that we must be open to growth and development for the relationship to be dynamic and healthy.
If we’re not willing to develop and grow it’s still possible to stay together…but it can be difficult depending on the partners.
As I listen to this song I’m reminded of when Brad and I first met. I was so afraid.
I had been hurt before meeting Brad and was planning to leave to live half way around the world in Spain for a few years.
But then Brad came into my life and I realized that we could, in fact, grow as we go.
I distinctly remember thinking that it would be so much more interesting to experience the adventures together rather than apart.
Instinctively I knew that where I invested my time that is what would grow.
Another beautiful line in the song says,
“I am unfinished, I’ve got so much left to learn, I don’t know how this river runs, I’d like the company through every twist and turn”.
Maybe you can relate? I didn’t know what to expect. It was all such a mystery back then. But I’m glad I took a chance on us.
How are you unfinished? What is the next step for your relationship? What will happen if you don’t grow? What could happen if you do?
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