Taking the First Steps
So Brad and I have 3 small kids.
Our youngest, Aaron, is now 18 months old and this week he decided to start walking!!
If you have ever taught a little kid to walk you might know how scared and nervous they are taking those first few steps.
And sometimes they cry and cling to you before you even understand what’s going on.
Healing Success Formula
One of the coolest parts about our HBT Program is the weekly group meetings.
On Monday, 13 couples met to talk about where they are on their healing journey and to encourage and support each other.
So many neat and wonderful things happen in these meetings.
The group discussed pages from our HBT workshop book that everyone gets when they join and someone came up with the coolest formula to describe what brings about healing…
How Trauma Works
Our son Luke was born with a condition that required two surgeries on his feet, leg casts, and special immobilizing shoes all before he was four years old.
When we went for his second surgery we didn’t realize that we would have to choose whether they would give him calming medication or for us to stay with him as they put him to sleep.
So we chose the calming medicine thinking that would be better for him.
As they wheeled him back into the surgical suite Brad and I tried so hard to keep it together. It was the hardest thing to see our little 2 year old leaving us for such a big thing.
There’s always this little place in your mind that wonders if he’ll wake up from anesthesia….
When You Feel Stuck After The Affair - Cody and Chaisley’s Story
“I'm afraid of what he'll say. I'm afraid to hurt him, but I just can't have that fear anymore. You know, I know that that's what he needs to heal and I heard it over and over on your podcast and it's, I just didn't quite understand it like, but now I do. And I think we're doing pretty good today. I would say, yes, we, you know, we still have work to do. And, but I feel like we're in a place where we're, it's a little more encouraging. We're not feeling as defeated…
I Just Found Out My Spouse Cheated, Now What?
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If you just found out your spouse cheated on you, you may be wondering what do I do? If, so, if you're asking a question like that, I'm really sorry that you're in that place. That is a terrible place to be. I've had clients in the past, tell me they would rather go back to Iraq again, get shot at I've had clients tell me that they would rather find out they have cancer again and find out their spouse had cheated on them. And so you, so I'm really sorry you're in that spot. It's a very devastating place to be in. It is a nightmare scenario. So I'm really sorry if you're in the spot where your spouse is cheating on you, and you're wondering, what should I do? And I want to give you three pieces of advice…
Bad news. There was a car wreck tonight
Why did you cheat on me? It’s one of the few questions that matter
That is the number one question I hear most often repeated from the person who has been betrayed. Sometimes the wayward partner is even asking that question., “Why did I cheat?”
I have a very distinct memory the first time I saw a couple in this situation because it really stands out in my mind. The husband had been betrayed and he was ready to file divorce papers. He was animated and upset, he had no peace. He wasn’t sleeping, not really eating, and had lost all joy in life.
To make matters worse…